When Was the Last Time You Held a Baby?


Have you ever noticed that pessimistic and depressed people avoid babies?

I’m sure there are exceptions to this statement, but on the whole, I think it’s accurate. Dark, gloomy minds shy away from babies. I think there’s something to learn from this.

Here’s another thought: There is a psychological need to be around small children. In The Breaking Dawn, I included a short passage about this:

What the lords of the Order failed to understand was that the suppression of the birth rate was also involved in the suppression of productivity. A junior professor in Iceland had discovered the correlation. His research made it clear that the absence of children from daily affairs depressed people. They needed to see a sufficient number of children in order to function well over time.

And while I can’t point to particular studies, I’m convinced that this is true: We need small children in our lives to remain properly balanced. We become unhealthy when we’re without them for too long.

And so, if these two thoughts are true… or even partly true… they’re something we should pay attention to. There’s something important to gain from them.

Why Babies?

Babies have strong effects upon us because they reset us mentally; they hearken back to less-damaged states in our lives. They are a touchstone… an untainted comparator… a tool to help calibrate our minds and our sense of life.

When we make real contact with babies, we are confronted with raw humanity, newly introduced into the world, headed into unlimited possibilities.

In other words, babies provide a kind of spiritual reset; they take us out of the dark mental ruts most of us live in and confront us with a nearly blank human slate… beings that are suited to far better things than the daily swill most people trudge through.

Hold Her

Pick up a baby next time you can (maybe every time you can), and really look into this child. See the fresh creature he or she is. Think about the kind of world this tiny creature will soon encounter. Can you feel the incongruity of sending this new being into a dark, deforming world?

Holding this child in your arms can you really justify sending him (or her) to something like a torture school? And yes, there are such things, promoted and staffed by our sanctimonious overlords. Babies of two or three decades ago are attending such schools right now.

Granted, that’s a pretty strong example, so how about this:

Do you want to see this child passed-out drunk? Bear in mind that in large segments of the West, especially in universities, getting falling-down drunk, repeatedly, is almost part of the curriculum. And loud, hyper-sexualized, aggressive behavior is expected. If you don’t do it, you’re “weird.”

Is that what you want for this child?

Or do you want to see the sweet boy you’re holding “get ahead” by bribing politicians? To get legislation written to make him rich while thousands or millions of people are deprived of choices and over-pay? To chase status so he can get his hands on as many vapid women as possible?

I dare say that none of us would want such things for the child we hold in our arms… and that’s the point. A baby confronts us with an unjaded being, and with an unjaded version of ourselves.

Without this kind of touchstone – without recalibrating ourselves from time to time – it’s all too easy to become dark, bitter, and hopeless.


So, pick her up, hold her, and look as deeply into her as you can.

Hold the beautiful, tiny boy and imagine the kind of life you want for him.

Let the experience reset you. Let it change you. Start imaging a better world. Then go out and start building it.

The seeds we sow will determine what these babies reap.

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Paul Rosenberg

11 thoughts on “When Was the Last Time You Held a Baby?”

    1. Hey you: I’m a cat lover, dogs are destructive, but ok if they are owned by others. Kids are ok if they belong to others. (read my above post to dauden).

  1. Your children are not your children.
    They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
    They come through you but not from you,
    And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
    You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
    For they have their own thoughts.
    You may house their bodies but not their souls,
    For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
    which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
    You may strive to be like them,
    but seek not to make them like you.
    For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
    ~ Kahlil Gibran, from “The Prophet”

  2. Very thought provoking article. I have 4 children with my husband of 27 years. I have struggled to prepare my children towards a contrarian outlook which has caused much grief in our marriage. All 4 are healthy and independent in spirit and mind. They are still between the ages of 14 and 23, so we have many years ahead of us but the mainstream influences are always powerfully around us. My work is never done. Thank you for some encouragement here.

    1. You are most welcome, dauden, and thank YOU for the crucial work you have done… it matters a very great deal.

    2. dauden: Main thing is keeping them out of public schools and home schooling or finding a good Christian school, as gov. schools run rampant with cultural and moral decline and lack of learning. I have studied globalism for over 40 yrs, which is why we chose to be child free, secondly certain genetic diseases parents had that can be passed down (type 2 and thyroid disease), thirdly, marriage has many hurdles over time.

  3. “That you and I in hand as we e’en do in heart, might ramble away as children, among the woods and fields, and forget these many years, and these sorrowing cares, and each become a child again.” Emily Dickinson
    I try to recite this everyday to remind myself of what Mr. Rosenberg sets forth in this fine article.
    Like the babies you write about, I find you to be an instrument of joy and hope. Thank you for the effort.

  4. There is only one thing I see when I see a baby and that’s a grave. I care about children so much that I realize the one and only way to keep them safe is not to create them in the first place. Your children will be harmed, they will suffer, and they will die. These are 100% GUARANTEED. Mr. Rosenberg is clearly a believer in supernatural beings and dimensions but I must remind him that there is no evidence of such things. We know that life is suffering and that death is forever. These are scientifically provable facts. So to create babies in this environment is irresponsible. I commend him for thinking about the future and wanting to improve the world for the next generation, but making more people is not going to solve anything and neither is religion.

    1. There can be great beauty in life, my friend. I hope you find it.
      More than darkness exists.

  5. Gee. This article really hits home for me. I care for my recently 1 year old granddaughter most of the time. I have had her pretty much every working day since she was 3 months old and I won’t say why because it doesn’t matter. I often just pick her little self up and smile at her. The joy she has brought me is something that cannot be measured and every time she is away I worry that she is being loved and cared for in the way that I do. I am no fan of cell phones but I must say, the videos and photos I have are absolutely precious to me. Watching her learn and grow has been a privilege that I will never regret having. The more cerebral aspects are individual in nature but certainly they have been touched upon in this piece.

  6. infamous: gotto agree w/ some your statements, yet my view is breakdown of society, over population, environmental issues, in this dysfunctional society post ww2. Cultural and moral decline on a daily basis. There is no guarantee that family members, children, g’children will inherit eternal life or being reprobates. Today’s society is not like it used to be, there is always wars and killing from the beginning. I have run into “older couples” like myself from late 40’s to 70’s in recent years, and they feel just like I do and are child free. We help group homes in the area. Folks, look into the eyes of your dog or cat and feel the unconditional love!

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